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Are you guilty? Jan 22, 2006 \| 10:26AM WELL I AM NOT GUILTY ABOUT ANYTHING BUT I AM 100% SURE MY MOTHER IN LAW IS. LET ME SEE WHERE SHOULD I BEGAN. I GUESS FROM THE BEGINNING WOULD BE GREAT. AS LONG AS I CAN REMEMBER MY CHILDREN WERE TREATED DIFFERENT THAN THE OTHER GRANDKIDS AND I HATED THAT BUT MY CHILDREN WERE LITTLE AND THEY DIDN'T REALLY UNDERSTAND. BUT SINCE MY KIDS ARE MUCH OLDER THEY ARE ABLE TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE RIGHT AND THE WRONG THAT THEY ENDURED. I ALWAYS THOUGHT THAT THINGS WOULD GET BETTER, BUT THEY ONLY GOT WORSE. LAST CHRISTMAS MY THEN 12 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER TOLD ME ABOUT WHEN I LEFT THEM OVER THERE GRANDMA'S HOUSE ONE THANKSGIVING HOLIDAY SHE TOLD ME IN FULL DETAIL ABOUT HOW HER GRANDMA BEAT HER WITH A BELT IN HER FACE AND GAVE HER NOT ONE BUT TWO BLACK EYES. SHE CRIED AND I CRIED AND SHE THEN SAID THAT IT FELT GOOD TO FINALLY TELL THE TRUTH. SEVERAL YEARS BEFORE THIS FULLY COMING OUT WE WERE MADE AWARE OF SOMETHING LIKE THIS HAPPENNING BUT MY DAUGHTER WOULDN'T TALK ABOUT IT. SO I ASKED HER WHY DIDN'T SHE TELL ME THIS EARLIER.SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE DIDN'T WANT TO BE THE REASON WHY ME AND HER DAD BROKE UP AND SHE WANTED US TO GET MARRIED. SO OUR LIFE WAS FOREVER CHANGED BECAUSE MY DAUGHTER FINALLY TOLD THE TRUTH CONSIDERING WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 5 YEARS AT THE TIME SHE TOLD US THIS. WELL WE FELT LIKE HIS MOTHER SHOULD KNOW WHY WE WEREN'T BRINGING THE CHILDREN AROUND ANYMORE CAUSE THAT WAS THE PLAN.I PROMISED MY KIDS THAT THEY WILL NEVER BE HURT AGAIN BY THAT FAMILY WHO NEVER LIKED ME ANYWAY.I KNOW THAT MY HUSBAND WANTS HIS CHILDREN AROUND HIS FAMILY BUT I DON'T THINK THAT WILL HAPPEN ANYTIME SOON. I KNOW THAT GOD VERY WELL HAS SOMETHING IN STORE FOR US AS A FAMILY AND I HAVE NO CONTROL OVER ANY OF THAT SO I ASK GOD TO FIX THIS SITUATION CAUSE IF IT IS LEFT UP TO ME IT WILL STAY THIS WAY. BUT I DO KNOW THAT KNOW MATTER WHAT I HAVE VOWED TO THE KIDS THAT I WILL PROTECT THEM NO MATTER WHAT GOES ON. I FEEL THAT CAUSE HIS FAMILY DIDN'T LIKE ME FROM THE START MY KIDS WERE PENALIZED. MY HUSBAND FAMILY HAS ALLOWED THEIR KIDS TO DO THINGS OR SAY THINGS TO MY KIDS AND LET IT GO . I CAN REMEMBER WHEN MY SON WHO WAS THEN 10 YEARS WAS ABOUT TO BE STABBED BY A COUSIN WHO WAS 12 YEARS OLD AND THE GRANDMOTHER OR COUSIN DID NOTHING. I AM BEYOND STRESSED OUT BECAUSE OF THIS FAMILY WELL I USED TO BE CAUSE I RECENTLY GAVE IT ALL TO GOD AND I TRUST THAT HE WILL FIX THIS . WELL I GUESS I AM GUILTY ABOUT ALL OF THIS CAUSE I FEEL LIKE FOR THE SAKE OF MY KIDS HAVING A GRANDMOTHER, AUNTS, UNCLES, AND COUSINS I SACRIFICED TO MUCH AND I DIDN'T PROTECT MY CHILDREN LIKE I SHOULD OF. SO FOR THIS I FEEL THE GUILT. I HAVE APOLOGIZED TO MY CHILDREN , BUT THEY SEEM TO THINK THAT I DID NOTHING WRONG . BUT ME BEING A REAL WOMAN I KNOW WHAT I DID WRONG AND I AM GLAD THAT MY THEN 12 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER PULLED MY CARD AND NOT ANYONE ELSE. I GUESS I JUST WANTED TO GET SOME OF THIS OFF OF MY CHEST BECAUSE THIS IS ONLY THE SHORT VERSION.
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firestarter

January 22, 2006 @ 10:48AM

OMG! I'm so sorry! Have you reported this abuse? If not, you should. Children should never endure any kind of abuse, but sadly, it happens all too often. If you treat your children right, you're a good mother. Never forget that.

Last edited by firestarter on January 22nd at 10:49 AM.

wends

January 23, 2006 @ 6:55AM

Like you my Mother-in-law never liked me. She didn't mistreat my childrean, quite the opposite, she tried to take over when they were babies. She didnt bother so much when they got older. My husband (we got separated shortley after the birth of my daughter) never saw anything wrong with her behaviour towards me or the children. This was a contributing factor in the marriage break up. All I can say to you, is be strong, trust in God and things will work out, depriving your kids of the in laws isnt always a bad thing!

pumpkin2s

January 23, 2006 @ 10:55AM

God Bless You for sharing Kre!
We all have similar things that are not right at all that we need to lift up each other in Christ!!

I've been reading the most awesome book by a guy named Philip Yancey called "What's So Amazing About Grace?!" Lately, it's really helped me to let go of things because, like you said, our perspective is everything ... The devil lies to us and we start thinking that the battle is ours, for one thing. The battle is a God-Thing all the time ... When things are upsetting or worrisome to me, I've been trying to do what I think that God would want me to do - Trusting that He can correct people and put them in their place much better than I ever could, since He knows all about us!!!

It's not easy at all to let go of that feeling that I MUST take matters into my own hands . . .
That's my test, I think, of 'growing in Christ.'
Especially at night, I'm rebuking the devil's lies that try to keep me awake, still - But, God knows!

Please keep seeking Christ! God has a plan for YOU!! Open yourself to wherever He leads!!!
God Bless You, my Christian Friend!! - Paula.

Last edited by pumpkin2s on January 23rd at 11:02 AM.

fatgman1

January 23, 2006 @ 8:56PM

Well I told you once before ,you did nothing wrong,because if you knew then when it happen,Wow ! but now you have took them out of that bad place in there life!And GOD will bring you forward to a better place. Just hold on and you will see the reward that awaits you for being the good mother you been for them and others. You know I been around you for years to know that you put your kids first!! SO DON'T FEEL GUILTY,BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT! STAY IN THERE AND EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT! LOVE YA YOUR FRIEND ALWAYS TONY...

fatgman1

January 24, 2006 @ 9:47AM

GOD'S PLAN FOR YOU!
GOD protects you; he holds your life in his hands. GOD has some plans for you, some small, some big, some grand.GOD guides you, with a brilliant shining light. GOD watches over you through morning, noon, and night. GOD is always there for you, to aid you in your time of woe. GOD tries hard to help you see, and learn, and grow. GOD has much faith in you; there's nothing you can't achieve. GOD encourages you to try, to think, to believe. GOD will always love you, and he hopes you'll love him too. GOD lends a shoulder, to calm, support, and soothe. GOD will wait for you; he'll be there in the end. GOD will welcome you, because he's your friend. WHAT I'M SAYING TO YOU MOOCHE IS GOD KNOWS WHAT'S UP AND YOU ARE NOT GUILTY IN HIS EYES.HE WILL GUIDE YOU AND PROTECT YOU AND THE KIDS.AND IF HE DOES NOT DO THAT ,THEN I GOT YOUR BACK!(YOU KNOW I GOT THAT ANYWAY). LOVE YOUR FRIEND TONY

Nannukc

January 26, 2006 @ 7:28PM

like you i have a evil mother in law in the begining she was so nice i have 3 children from previous marrages when i got with her son she was sooo nice till she teamed with my ex and i had to give up one of my kids because she lied to him about me she thaught that that would drive me and her son appart we still do not have full custdy of my daughter but we do see her often. but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. i hate what she has done but with faith i have forgave her but i do not trust her so know that forgiveness will help the hardend harts. i am truely sorry that your kids have had to go through this and you also i pray for your family the kids realy do love eachother someday they will see it

mrylndasil1968

February 11, 2006 @ 7:49PM

thats the best way. Leave it all up to god. I do know one thing. what comes around goes around because God does not like ugly. so be strong and hold tight he will take care of it. God bless you and you children. You deserve it.

nesbitttippy

February 14, 2006 @ 3:38PM

God bless you! :)

harleylady22

February 14, 2006 @ 9:01PM

I am so glad that you shared your story with us, it is good to talk about it. I can tell that you are for your children. And know that you took a stand after your daughter told you was the right thing to do... Put your trust in God {like you said} and he will bless you! God Bless you! Cyndi

wanna_b_airforce

February 24, 2006 @ 10:35PM

Your a great mother who stood up and said enouph. You were there for your children , and I know what they are feeling. Though, my brotherand I were never beaten by our grandmother, we were the outsiders. My grandmother pretty much tried to control us as if we were slaves and she never did that with any of our cousins. I was on her comp oneday *my mom was there as well* and I was cheking my e-mails and she said that I couldn't have had so many frineds because I had a lot of messages, and she told me to deleate every single message and when I wouldn't she went berzerk adn told me to get off the comp because I might cause a virus... adn we never got a long either I guess it was because I wasn't like her, and so she disowned us.
I hope you and your family are getting better
God bless and lots of love
Rach.... your not alone

ilovemyboxers

March 01, 2006 @ 2:33PM

oh my gosh! that's horrible! i'm so soooo sorry. I have a step-grandmother named Elsie. She lives with my papa, but she's not married with him... the only people she cares about in the family are her ACTUAL blood-relatives, which means i and 17 other kids are not treated equaly. The worst part is that everytime papa wants to come visit us he says he has to go somewhere with Elsie. It's not right.

Just believe in God. He'll lead the way.

Just get yourself to it and He will get you through it. Great wishes.

ilovemyboxers

Laubeck

March 09, 2006 @ 3:52PM

I personally and I do think that I speak for nearly 100% sure that all mothers would have done the ame in your position.The only thing I would have done is asked my Husband to accompany me to the Authorities to report the abuse..but you are not me and therefore do not make the same decisions. I know for sure that my Husband would be right behind me in that decision if he had not already demanded an explaination!When I say that Under NO CIRCUMSTANCES would violence happen though I am sure Husbby would be tempted to hurt some one who has hurt his precious children.
I think its time you stopped beating yourself up about it you have been told by the people that count your children that youa re not to blame Please enjoy your motherhood with them.

boowho

April 12, 2006 @ 5:15PM

hi, this was sad, you are amazing person you are stong, thank God you all got through this, a saying keep going in my head I say it to myself alot God brought you to it he will bring you through it.

lasievert

May 30, 2006 @ 1:23PM

Just starting to read and catch up i hope that god will take care of this so their will be no guessing
of who did it.
I'm sorry for this but sometimes we hope it's just us.

grannysarey

June 10, 2006 @ 10:27AM

Hun you got nothing to feel guilty about. As soon as you knew what happened you quit letting them go there so you are a good mother. I wouldn't let them around my kids either. I can't believe people who abuse children. How do they sleep at night ? Pray for them. God can put love in their heart for you and the children. God bless you

sexime

June 10, 2006 @ 5:10PM

Hi there;
Wow my heart breaks for u and your children.
I don't think that blaming yourself is helpful to anyone at this point. You must remember that the abuse happened outside the home and not in your presence and therefore you cannot beat yourself up over something that you had no control over at the time. I think your daughter did a brave thing to finally confide in you.
I would strongly suggest reporting this to the police if u haven't already.
I cannot imagine the pain and anger of finding out that your children have been abused in anyway and I think keeping your children away from the family is the right thing to do.
I truly believe that "what u do comes back to u" and that your mother-in-law will have to answer for what she has done at some point in her life.

I do wish you and your children peace and happiness.
Stay safe and stop blaming yourself!!
Thanks for sharing
Hugzzzz

Last edited by sexime on June 10th at 5:16 PM.

ginagee95

June 26, 2006 @ 6:49PM

hi, i just read your blog, and being a mother of ten children, not all mine biological but mine none the less, reading your story and being inthe profession that iam, i must advise you that you should never bring your childrn back to that womans house, now i no that this may cause some unsettlement between you and your hubby, but you can over comethat. for the safety of your children i strongly advise against the children being involved withsome one like that. i also advise calling child protection on this person. well this is my opinion big hugs ginagee95

boowho

July 22, 2006 @ 10:38PM

I am so sorry I will pray all the answers come your way.Rose

moonsong2036

September 29, 2006 @ 5:37PM

That is awful .I'm gonna tell u this u r a much stronger woman than I. I believe no i know i would flippppppp. I feel like flipping for your children. There is absolutely no reason for those kind of things to go on i just dont understand. you all have my prayers.god bless
hugs misty

shy1966

October 12, 2006 @ 8:52AM

Your children are such strong little ones and to think they didnt tell you about this for a long time i would put off today what you need to sort tomorrow and HOLD YOUR CHILDREN IN YOUR ARMS AND GIVE THEM A BIG CUDDLE AND LOADS OF KISSES!! as i think now is the time they need you so much as they understand what has been done to them by this woman but i do agree with ginagee95 you should and must for your childrens safety REPORT this evil woman and her family for the abuse they have put these poor children through!!! As a mother myself i beg you to do this as if it where my children i would not be here now they would be visiting me !!

Your a good mother and you will do te right thing by your children and if your husband loves his children in his heart he knows this is the only and right thing for you to do !!!

I will pray and ask GOD for his help for you and your children in yoour time of need and ask him to look over you while he decides what you shall do!!

bjojo

January 01, 2007 @ 1:03PM

What an outrage. You are those childrens mother and a good one I might add. I personally would never put my children in that situation ever again. That women is abusive and should be turned in to the authorities. She is evil and will be punished by our maker. Under no circumstances would she ever be allowed around any children. God gave you those children to protect the best way you can. I would never let her see them again and I would tell her why.

teafortwo

January 22, 2007 @ 3:37PM

No one deserves to be abused. After learning the truth, now is the time to keep your children away from her. hugs jeannie :)

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my name is kredio but my friends call me kre or mooche.I am a mother of 5 children 2 girls ages 17 and 14, also 3 boys ages 12,4 and 2 and a half. i am a stay at home mom. also i am married to a minister, so that makes me a ministers wife. i enjoy my life to the fullest. i have one god daughter who is my life also she is the cutest.i really look forward to what god has in store for me this year since i am making alot of changes that are pleasing to him. i am a god fearing woman and i love the lord. i am the advice giver to all my friends and family. so if you need some honest advice then i am here for you.

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